Monday, May 2, 2016

Question of the Month with Michael D'Agostino



Michael D'Agostino of A Life Examined (that sweet thunder from down under) started this blog hop with these words:

"Your readers would like to know a little more about you. Show them who you are by taking part in the Question of the Month bloghop. On the first Monday of each month, we answer the question that gets posted here. Sign up on the list (on Michael's site) to join the fun ;) With every question, remember that the important part is explaining your answer. And please, if you have any suggestions for new questions, share them in the comments section. I bet you've got some great ideas for us."

This month's question is: 
“If a friend came to you looking for advice on starting a blog,
what three pieces of advice would you give them?”


1.

The first thing I'd say is decide what your blog is going to be about, whether that is a narrow designation or a broad topic. It doesn't hurt to evolve or change but at the beginnig, I think it's a good idea to stick with one thing. Really work on that "thing."


2.

This is a strange thing for me to say, as I've been robbin' Peter to pay Paul since last Fall, but get in a groove of writing, reading, and commenting...that creates your own community of blog buddies and it feels more friendly that way. Blogging alone is bleh.


3. 

Dont' put up with other people's junk. Delete rude posts; it's a free country and it's your blog-home. In truth, I've deleted one post and about three comments in total. Each time, I sent a message to the person that was friendly and explained my reason for doing so as nicely as I could; I'm not in the business of making enemies. I don't want to delete anything but I also want a certain level of civility, you know? I despise a blog where people are nitpicking and showing their hiney and in my experience, that is a slippery slide. There were two or three blogs I followed that I eventually abaondoned due to the unkind commentary. What fun is that for anyone? So, I do my part to keep it friendly and encourage others to do so. That's all I can do is try.

Great question, Michael! Check out some of the other posts on this topic: 


39 comments:

  1. 1. People are going to get angry at you. Don't take it personally.
    2. Leave comments on other blogs so people can find your blog.
    3. When you want to leave a funny comment make sure it's worded so it can't be misinterpreted. I've lost a few followers with a few badly composed comments that were supposed to be funny.

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    1. I'm kinda like my friend, Linda of Linda's Peaceful Place...more sensitive than I realized. That said, I still would not delete a comment unless it was really barbed. I'm most likely to do that if someone is attacking someone else (which was actually the case for the one post I deleted).

      I don't have time for that kinda junk and I'd hate to think anyone associated that with the Flipside.

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  2. I posted one of those comments that you deleted, do you remember?

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    1. Actually, I can't remember what it was but I do know the kind of comments I delete. They are not always horrible! I just try to ere on the side of caution.

      Point in question: being open about the rationale didn't kill our friendship, right? We're both still here. :-)

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    2. Note: Also, yours was not that bad...when I deleted the entire posts and comments - it was hatefully meanspirited towards another blogger.

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  3. I like your second point. It is no fun to blog alone. When I first started blogging, I went years with no one really reading my posts. But I also didn't really advertise. I posted on my FB page, but I've come to find most friends and family members are not going to support you in your blogging experience. It's just something you do they don't understand. So you have to get out there and find other people who DO like to blog and WILL be interested in whatever topic you offer. Then you have to follow them too. As you say, it seems friendlier that way too.

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    1. It really isn't! One of the most stressful things for me is when I just can't get around to all my friends' blogs. I know that the community is important but I"ll also add that when I was so overwhelmed with "stuff," the friends I had made were so kind. Healing vibes are the best.

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  4. Great advice on #3. Life's too short to spend time in the negative.
    Mary at Play off the Page

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    1. So true, right? Thanks, Mary!

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    2. So true, right? Thanks, Mary!

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    3. At the point where blogging becomes something that you stress about or get upset about: shut it down.

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  5. Good advice on keeping things civil. I don't think I've gotten on anyone's bad side (at least not deliberately), but I have heard of crazy things happening between bloggers.

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    1. Tamara, I can't imagine you ever getting on someone's bad side. I've seen some crazy and my gut reaction is "grow up...no one has to be a part of that nonsense."

      Right? ;-) Thanks, Tamara!

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  6. I'm with you on points 2 & 3. I've rarely deleted any comments other than spam, but I find most of my visitors to be pretty civil and when I do get a comment that I think might be a bit disruptive or misunderstood I might leave it and follow up with my own comment of disagreement, disapproval, or whatever I feel is needed.

    ON point #1 I'm still not stuck on any one "thing", but since I consider myself an eclecticist in blogging I guess I can go all over the place. I love it that way. I get too claustrophobic when I'm stuffed in a box.


    Arlee Bird
    A to Z Challenge Co-host
    Tossing It Out

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    1. I just think you should stick to one thing at first, to get your bearings. After that, I'm with you.

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  7. That's good advice. I think many people start a blog thinking that people will just start reading and commenting (and it will be this one-way street). And I suppose that if you're famous in some way it might just work like that, but most bloggers seek that blogging community. So, you have to be prepared to invest some time into it. And if you don't have the time, don't do it.

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    1. You said a mouthful (overused cliche...no extra charge). It doesn't just "happen" that a bunch of bloggers gravitate to what you are doing.

      As I anticipate being "back in the swing of things," I was fully aware that absence will make your community go away, even if the reason you are away is beyond your control. Participation IS what makes the community.

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  8. Never put up with other people's junk! Some people think its okay to leave rude comments on blogs, but its not. No one should have to deal with that.

    Getting into the groove of blogging does take some time, but after a while it becomes second nature. :)

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    1. Amen, Chrys!! I'm getting back in the groove now that Gonzo is up and about (for a while) and I'm clearing my plate of things. I was overwhelmed for a while.

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  9. You're number one is advice I've seen a lot of people give today. =)

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    1. Yeah, it's nice to have some idea about what you'll find on a blog. Thanks, Patricia!

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    2. Yeah, it's nice to have some idea about what you'll find on a blog. Thanks, Patricia!

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  10. I've seen this happen on blogs and then it spills over to Twitter where things get really cruel and mean at times. I've only ever deleted one comment on my blog.

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    1. Twitter has a higher potential for nasty, I think. It's also harder to anticipate what you'll find sometimes!

      I think I've deleted one whole blog post (blogger attacking another blogger in comments) and two actual comments, but I let the commentor know and explained why I ere on the side of caution. It didn't sour a friendship, thankfully.

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  11. Usually Google catches the spam stuff, and I haven't had any really bad comments I thought needed deleting.

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    1. Every now and then, I see Google doing that favor for me, ha ha.

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  12. I use Comment Moderation, and other than spam, there's only been one comment that I deleted rather than publishing. But it was a political dispute and the guy had nuttin' to debate; he just wanted to call me a couple of names.

    There has to be some SUBSTANCE. It can't just be an ad hominem attack on me.

    But I've always welcomed argumentative comments. I say controversial things at times and I don't mind proving my point while clobbering someone in a public debate. I ain't skeered no one! :o)

    ~ D-FensDogG
    'Loyal American Underground'

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    1. Oh, I ain't skeered, brudder...skeered is not my motivation at all and I love a juicy debate or radically opposed opinion. I just don't like when people are just plain mean.

      You have never been that, so we're golden, ha ha.

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  13. For me, you'd have to know what the newbie's aim in blogging is before you could really give any great advice. Or at least before I could. I came into it just wanting a voice, and the best advice I can think of is find out where the cool kids hang out, comment on their blogs, and build from there.

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    1. Hey, Chris, that's a good idea! I never thought of that. Looking for similiar interests and those who are GOOD at it is win-win. Great advice, Chris. ;-)

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  14. Excellent points, of course. I agree that it's important to do one thing at first, although my one thing ran out of steam before long. When I changed my blog, I started to get more followers, but I had learned only recently how to get those followers. Now if I want more, I whine. Or post a photo of the dogs. They're more popular than I am.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. You evolved, sister! Like I was telling Arlee, I think you need to have a jump off point and as a reader, I'm going to look at several posts to get an idea of what to expect.

      Everybody's different: Dogs? You had me at woof. Whining? Uh, I'm trying to remove that from life, in general, so that might not get me there. It would get a phone call, though, ha ha.

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  15. I delete any spam or rude comments I find on my blog life is too short for such crap, one needs to write what one feels happy about writing, write for yourself and no one else

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  16. Love the question and answers. I think the best thing is to always remember to have fun and not have it feel like a burden. I was one of the bad gals where you deleted my comment( I hang my head low). It was about the Kardashians which is normally not what I call them but hey....totally understood. I started strictly doing my cards and always felt sad that I would visit many but so few commented on mine. I am still very ,up his into card making and love it but I also create with my movie spiel:)

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    1. But don't you think that it's nice that we can yak as adults and just be civil? In my case, as I explained, I noticed a lot of kids were reading my blog (totally unexpected, but they know me, yada yada yada). Most ideas can be shared and still be kinda kid friendly, if you know that is in the mix.

      Your cards are fantastic and make me want to clear my plate for card making. PLUS, I love creative people and you are definitely one creative gal.

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    2. But don't you think that it's nice that we can yak as adults and just be civil? In my case, as I explained, I noticed a lot of kids were reading my blog (totally unexpected, but they know me, yada yada yada). Most ideas can be shared and still be kinda kid friendly, if you know that is in the mix.

      Your cards are fantastic and make me want to clear my plate for card making. PLUS, I love creative people and you are definitely one creative gal.

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  17. I like the advice you offer here. As much as I love comments, I have no problem deleting problem ones. With that said, there have been times when I've encouraged or started discussion about inappropriate comments just to show my readers how I take a stand. It's risky, but sometimes the risk is worth it (sometimes it's not). Every blog is different and so is every blogger. We all have to do what we feel is right for our blogs.

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Love, Cherdo